Individuals

When you spend alot of time with someone does your influence affect them or do we just hope it does because we want to better them?
Is it possible to change someone or do we just see what we want to see?

We hope, with family members, friends, partners, that we can help them to get out of bad habits but we could possibly be pushing something that isn't meant to happen.

We're told to accept people as they are but if they have a flaw should be try and change it or are we making matters worse?

With every little thing there's a thin line between helping and making things worse, but how are we ever to know where the line is. Through trial and error is the only way but do we take the risk that may ruin everything.but we really should love people for exactly who they are, that's the reason we loved them in the first place.. Isn't it

In my opinion in we like/love someone we like/love them for who they are and shouldn't need to change them. However what if it was for the better of your relationship or their life? I guess it all depends on what you're trying to change and what sort of person they are.. ?

How time flys..

Been a while since i was on here - feel a bit like a stranger. But i guess when you spend time apart from places when you go back you are a stranger. Things change and time changes them.

Time can seem to go so quickly and just flash before your eyes. One minute you're 10 and your biggest worry is spelling homework, and then suddenly you re 18 and in a full time job.

For the first time in a long time I can honestly say I'm pretty much happy. (I say pretty much because who is ever actually 100% happy with every aspect of their life?)

Whatever life throws at us we have to make the most of it, especially when you can blink and miss the moment. You just have to go with it and make the decision for you - screw anyone else and what they want and what they think. Its your life - might as well live it your way. So make mistakes, correct them. Take wrong turns, turn back. Loose love ones, gain them. Follow your head, follow your heart.

Every action has a reaction but you're never gonna know what that reaction will be until you give it a go.

When we miss an opportunity in life we regret it. So take it and see where it leads, it may be the best decision you ever made....

Complicated Situations - Taken people

What if you met the love of your life but they're already married?

That's an extreme, but what if you met someone and you knew within a week that they suit you and you should be together.. Do you fight for it, or do you sit on the sidelines? Guess that's down to what person you are, and weather you believe in fate or making everything happen yourself.
If you believe the 'if its supposed to happen, it'll happen' you'd sit on the sidelines, patiently being their friend waiting for it to happen...
But if you re the opposite and think that people make their own fate you'd slowly push your way in..

But neither of those are an answer.. You can't force someone to be with you-even if you are meant to be, especially if they re taken, because you don't wanna be the reason they split up and you definitely don't want to be a rebound.

That's alot of issues for liking someone, so is it easier/for the best if we just ignore our feeling and just be friends, or is that even worse?

Do people asa couple change?

Some people in my life I have known for many years and everyone has changed in some way or another. What I'm trying to get my head around is weather people change together?

I know, looking back, that I have changed, not just physically. I also know that alot of my friends have changed to: got more serious, grownup, become independant etc.

But what I don't understand is that two seperate people may have changed, yet if you look at their relationship together they havent changed at all. How does that work?

Is that due to how long the relationship is? Or down to the dynamics of that relatuionship? Or just plain and simple down to them?

And if you're in a routine with someone - because you've known them several years, how do you change together?

Or as people do we not really change, do we just learn and adapt?

Drama

In everyone's life there's drama.. so how do we determine whats just 'lifes drama' and whats 'self-made drama'?

I always feel like I've been a big one for drama, always got something going on. Well they do say that when one part of your life goes well a different part will screw up.
But I'm 18, is this gonna go on for the rest of my life, I genuinely just want to be happy yet all I see is drama.

Guys, family, work, there's always something going on, and I've had enough, I want simpleness.
Stupid thing is, even when I try and avoid drama-I seem to attract more.. How does that even work?
So in life, do we embrace the drama? or get all dramatic?

Guess it's best to embrace it and turn it around to our advantage, unless you're just one of those people who love drama (?)
So head down, deal with the task infront of us and attempt to diffuse any situation that gets over the top... or at least thats the plan...

Waiting...

Each day we wait for something, a bus, a customer, a friend, time to pass but how much of our lives our we wasting in just waiting around?

I spend alot of my time waiting for people. Guests at work and friends/guys. I seem to have friends and family members that are always running late and keep me waiting. But if they are the ones that are always running late does this mean that theyre never kept waiting?

At what point do we say enough is enough and we shouldnt wait anymore? Should we fill our waiting time by doing things - such as writing in a blog, as I'm currently waiting for someone at the moment or should we litterally just sit and stare at our phones/doors waiting for whatever it is we're waiting for?

I think what we have to work out for ourselves is weather its worth waiting for and how long we're prepared to wait.
I know that for some people - a selected few - I would wait forever, however I have some that I will give a set time limit on.

So if we have a set time for something and decide to fill our time should we then waste more time then feeling guilty. We all know that life doesn't last forever so how much time is the 'correct time' to spend waiting?
How do we decide when to give up and stop waiting...

Change

Change is the one consist thing in our lives, the only thing that we can be sure of .. things will and they are changing.
Certain decisions we make determine that we have to make changes in our lives.
Changing jobs, changing relationships, changing living situations. Quite often changing one thing leads to changing another.
But what if the wrong thing changes, just by life or by ourselves?
How do we overcome it and turn it around so it suits us? More often than not change is beyond our control we just have to make the best of it.

But when it is in our control how do we determine weather to take that jump, the leap into the unknown.
I'm faced with some of these decisions each day and at this point in my life I'm faced with alot of them - I'm just trying to determine weather I'm strong enough to go through with it.
I don't like getting my hopes up with things, I feel that too often than not I will be let down, therefore if I don't get my hopes up I can't get let down.

So now I face a wait, I have two different sides of my life, one in each hand and it all comes down to what I will get told/asked hopefully some when in the next few days.

Maybe change isn't down to us, maybe we decide different options but in fact its down to other people and their decisions that effect our life: People hiring us, firing us, getting with us, splitting up with us, contracts being renewed/ended, so many different options, but as my tattoo says... If you don't risk anything, you risk even more...